Finding mr right

綜藝大哥大 touched on a very interesting topic with 伊能静 on 'Finding Mr Right'. As far as i remembered, she had a high profile marriage and followed by a surprise divorced with the singer, Harlem Yu. I suppose anything can happen to happy marriage if you don't work and guard it together with your life partner. 


Back to the show, she shared that there's never Mr Right out there in the world, only 'Me Right'. I couldn't agree more and thats why I decided to write about it as it's really something I go through...I guess all of us do at some phase of our life. My BF J was sharing on her blog about finding their half some time ago and it was really interesting. You can go and read it all about it...anyway back to this, I have always had 'difficult' time finding the right boy to love. To be humble about it, I was lack of any suitor and I was not being difficult in my shortlist criteria. If you have done recruitment, you'd know finding the right candidates take a long practice and many failure. 


Until to a phase of my life, I STOP looking. I spent alot of effort enjoying myself. Dancing my hearts out, learning new genre, learning new language, hang out, church; doing everything to be 'whole'. It wasn't also a delibrate intention because I was low in confidence but I found so much meaning to be independent and love with myself. I'd go movie and feel perfectly alright. I'd eat out alone and feel good. 


When Eric came along, I could feel I was a complete different girl being in the relationship. I was not looking for assurance through someone else and that was a complete set free. I totally enjoy THE relationship rather than seeking for approval and love. Our love grew strong because we are passionate about ourselves. We always ask each other if we can live without each other. The truth is, yes, but we would never want to make that choice because life is so good with US being in the equation. :)


It's never too late to find yourself and be whole. Most importantly is to find what makes your heart click, what makes you spent 10 hours of your life and you will still be happy. It could be work, god, dance, movie, kids, photography... and remember to be happy being yourself.


Love this feeling...it must be the post-yoga effect.